Amigos

​Quoting a story from my friend -

 “ It was that engineering sem end break, I was just checking out my FB, just got a ping from one of my classmate "hi". Oh!! this guy.... Till then all I heard about him was lots of head weight, attitude guy. I took few mintues just to think whether to reply or not. I finally broke my silence and replied, of course keeping my attitude up:P

Since we both were from the same place, it all started with casual introduction and background details. It was the first time he spoke to me, I dint find any attitude in his talk, may be people behavior changes from person to person:). This is how it all started with, then it continuous with number exchange, what's app text, it all just clicked. Thank to god:). Then it went on with reminding assignments,record completion(Ahh!! most of the time i use to endup writting double assignments:P), giving free advice when his serious crush got committed to someone else:D:D " chilll re...... you deserve someone better", tagging all possible girls and asking "Is she ok":p and the final answer was no:(.

Goes on with celebrating my span placement and his admission for MS, "WOW !! double dhamaka" sweet memories:). 

The one who helped me in all B.E lab stuff,the one who use to scold me "what will you do with grade point, learn some tech stuff". The one who was there in my all ups and downs. When I almost dropped my idea of taking up job in span and coming to banglore,he is the one who forced me to come out of my comfort zone and experience ​the world.

Finally am here in span completing a year and he flew to US for MS, by giving a promise of attending my big day whenever it is and whereever he is in this world:p. I hope you remember it idiot:p

Who told a girl and a guy can't be good friends???:D  am just waiting here for the​ day when i can introduce my bestie to my hubby:P “

Hello All,

I have been finding interesting topic to bounce back on my blogs. And I read the above story. There was story competition in our office on behalf of friendship day. And this story really caught my eye. Not just because it was written by my friend, but also because it was grounded to reality. So the topic is about a friend and also a friend from opposite sex.

Friendship is one of those essays, we have all written in our childhood. “She/he is my best friend and so and so…” We all have quoted so many quotes regarding the same - ‘A friend in need is friend indeed’, ‘We are lucky to chosen our friends’ and much more going. Am sure many of you have celebrated some of the cheesiest things, just for the reason of being in friendship!!! So many things, and almost life happening events, well it would take too long to down that lane. But I believe friendship is about celebrating. Well certainly it would depend on how well you choose, yet friend is someone who has lived the smallest joy and biggest pain with you. A friend would push you beyond the limit. A good friend (might laugh at you when you fell) would certainly offer a helping hand for you. Certainly not going to bore you by blabbering the qualities of good friend anymore. Just a shudder, life would have been so bad if we never talked to any co-humans other than family!!!

I have personally relied on friends for so many matters. They stood by me during any of “anti” fights. They pushed me to see a wider perspective of my career and my life, mainly yelling at me so many times even to change the smallest of my bad habit. Sometimes I even wonder as of how much they define me. If asked to give a definition of myself, I (would) will have to include on my friends who shaped me also. With the social networking rapidly progressing, I am much closer to my friends than before. I now check them in Whatsapp, Facebook (Oh! Even supposedly call them sometimes) and know their status even if they are so far away from me. I sometimes (not sure who all does this) check them out to recollect how they were with me. I strongly believe, even if I had to consider myself a tech freak, that technology helps me in maintaining the friendship. It helps me to keep in touch with my friends, because I have seen the earlier days when “Out of site is lost friendship itself”. I never had phones and social networking links earlier and my dad had transferable job. I made friends (probably best for the time then) and could never stay in contact with them. But now it seems a small world and I would not have to lose any friends anymore.

And I would like to talk about friend from opposite gender… Generally in India, I have noticed a lot of hesitation about making friends from different gender. Honestly, though I did not feel this to be an offensive (or against culture) issue. It really doesn’t matter of what gender they are or how they appear. I am really unsure of this sort of hindrance in people. I am although astonished about how your perception of things would wider and vary when you have friends from opposite gender. After all, they are also as humans as us and they too think. Plus when we restrict our circle of friends, aren’t we restricting ourselves to the narrower possibilities of aspect. You get to know their way of thinking and also can use their approaches in life. Give a thought in the directions.

I know you will have your own pre-defined opinion in the topic. But at the end of the day, friendship is all about like-minded people, and they can be anybody (Men or women). Hence I can only convey to you, go out and Make new friends. Don’t much worry about gender, caste, religion, nationality or profession but make sure you keep in touch.

Please Take Care :-)
Keep Smiling :-)
With Loads of Love,
Maddy.